Thanksgiving is a time to spend with family, to be thankful, & to enjoy lots of food! As American thanksgiving just passed I wanted to write a blog post about being thankful. Let me start off by saying that this year has been a very challenging year. The start of 2018 did not go the way I had wanted it to or had planned for it to. In fact the same day I felt my world came crashing down was the same day that I found out that my dear friend, mentor & mother figure had passed away in a tragic accident. So you can imagine that around this time of year I am mourning a lot of losses. There are a number of things that I could choose to not be thankful for & believe me I have my days. However, I am in the process of reminding myself daily to be thankful for the time that Kim was in my life, to be thankful for God’s direction in my life, and to be thankful for family even though we live far apart. As American thanksgiving draws to a close I find myself in a whirlwind of emotions. I am incredibly grateful for so many things, people, places, opportunities really the list could go on. I often think we take these things & people for granted until it comes to this time of year or sometimes we never find time to be grateful for specific things. Well this year I don’t want to just do that. I want to actually think of one person every week of this year that I am thankful for. I have come to the conclusion that I want to write one person every week & tell them I am thankful for them & why I am thankful for them. I know that this is no easy task but I also know that I am who I am because of these people. I am thankful for each and every one of them. Even the people who didn’t/don’t believe in me because without them I would not be where I am today, without them I would not have had the confidence in myself, I would not have married the man of my dreams, I wouldn’t have had the confidence to pursue a Masters degree, & to follow my dreams. I think the one thing that I am learning as I get older is that we can be thankful all year round & in fact we should be. There are so many people & things that go unnoticed that actually are huge things to be thankful for. So as American thanksgiving comes & goes I know my emotions will continue to get stronger as I miss out on time with my immediate family and as I reminisce on the times spent with Kim. I am choosing to be mindful of these emotions & choosing to continue pushing forward.
So I am encouraging everyone to join me in thinking of one person weekly who you are thankful for & why you are thankful for them between now & next year at this time. And then to write them a letter, a note, a text, give them a phone call, whatever way you can & tell them you are thankful for them. If that person is no longer with us then write a letter to them – it is still something you can do & you are still thankful for the impact that they have had on you & in your life! I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone & join me in this challenge.
And for those of you who find this time of year difficult, know that you are not alone, it’s okay to not want to celebrate, and most importantly it’s okay to feel all the emotions surrounding the holidays. Know that it is okay to ask for help or to reach out & talk to someone. You don’t have to do this alone & in fact we weren’t meant to do these things alone.
In closing, I want to encourage each of you to really ponder what you’re thankful for this holiday season. And to my fellow Americans HAPPY THANKSGIVING!